Marriage

How sure should I be before making a lifelong commitment like marriage?

It's like getting married. You don't get engaged to somebody saying, "I'm 85 percent sure I want to marry them," with 15 percent that still has to be worked out.

Does 'wives submit to your husbands' make the husband superior?

No. Men were created to be selfless servant leaders in the way of Christ. They were not called to be domineering to their wives. They are not dictators, not superior.

Is it a mistake to get married young?

St Paisios says one of the great joys in life is when two people marry young, because they keep a certain youthfulness in their relationship, having been united since their youth.

Should I be dating in my twenties or looking for a wife?

I certainly did not have a career path. I was working as a plumber's assistant. But I knew that if I was going to stay out of trouble, I needed to find a wife and become responsible in...

What should a husband do when his wife isn't doing her part?

As a husband and a leader, you do not do things that are distressing and difficult for your wife to understand or accept. You do not overly burden your wife.

Why doesn't my wife respect me?

We often hear the saying, respect is not given, it is earned. Yet so many men look at their marriage and think the respect from their wife should be a given, the biblical norm.

How do I talk to my wife about not feeling respected?

The only way to figure that out is by talking with your wife. Carve out an hour of time, sit down with her, and say: I love you and I am devoted to you, and I want to enter paradise...

What does it mean to lead your family like Christ?

A real leader is not somebody who commands people to follow him, or demands it, or manipulates it. Real leadership is like Christ.

Does marriage really take a lot of work?

Marriage is a lot like a stock chart. It goes up, it goes down, it goes back up. The only thing you really care about is that it is trending in the right direction.

Why do I treat strangers better than my own spouse?

That is the martyrdom that marriage is: laying down your life for the other person, loving them, respecting and honoring them, working on your communication.

Should I love my kids or my spouse more?

So many times today people are devoted to their children, they love their children, and they say, well, I have unconditional love for my kids. But that is not your spouse.

Why does a bad marriage make me so exhausted?

Why do people spend so much time in bitterness and resentment and anger in their marriage, in underlying problems that become a complete and total and utter exhaustion for their souls?

Is getting married young a good idea?

When we say that God wants us to grow up, we are not saying God wants us to become like our parents, especially if they have issues or are dysfunctional.