What actually makes someone a real man?

The number one thing to keep in mind is that we are made in the image of God. When you see one of my sons, you say: that looks like a little Father Moses. But here's the key: the question is, will you grow into the likeness? We start with image and we grow into likeness. If my son grows up, makes a bunch of bad decisions, and God forbid turns away from the faith and screws up his life, everyone will say he's in my image, he looks like his father.

But he isn't in his likeness. He's not like his father. When we don't have God, we don't have real manhood, because all real, genuine, authentic masculinity and manhood is based on the person of God. Scott Galloway said in a TED talk recently that he was having a hard time defining exactly what makes someone a man, and the reason is that he doesn't have Jesus Christ.

Christ is the image of the eternal Father; when we see Christ, we have seen the Father. Real masculinity means you are in touch with God, not as an idea, but as a person. If you've watched my videos, you know about me. But if we meet on the street, you don't really know me. That is how many people approach the scriptures and the spiritual life: they know about God, but they don't know him. They have stalker syndrome. They know all the facts, but they don't know the person.